Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Letter Writing - Pondering

Something I've been thinking about this summer is writing a letter to my son. It's something I should probably do as I am feeling more and more strongly about it. But the thought terrifies me when I think seriously of writing just to him, not his parents, when I envision him reading it, assuming his adoptive mother would give it to him to read.

How do I write a letter to a person I love so much but I only truly know as a baby? It seems so direct. And terrifying.

Or perhaps it's just my perfectionism and constant self criticism telling me that I may blow it or he isn't interested or he won't/doesn't like me.

Maybe just a simple note will do. Dear Name, I love you very much and I have loved you since before you were born. I just wanted you to know that, in case you ever wondered. Love, Jayne.


Blogger said...

I write to my daughter a lot now, the first few times felt weird, I didn't know what to say.
Why not tell him a bit about what you are dong with your life, a photo of your house, do you have pets, things a person his age would be interested in.
I used to write to my daughter when she was growing up too even though I knew she wouldn't get the letters, I wrote anyway.
I think it's great you want to write to him, I hope it goes well.
Sometimes I put stickers in my letters for my daughter too, we both love stickers.

11:36 AM  
Blogger mama23 said...

Everytime I see a letter from my son's birthmom in our mailbox, I hope it is written to him, rather than to me. I want him to have a letter that is all his own, even if it is only a couple of sentences.

I don't want to be the only person to tell him how his story began. I know that his birthmom loved him, because she went through great difficulites to tell me. However, I think (when he is older) it will mean so much more to him if those words came from her. I can also understand if right now it is just too hard for her to write to him. Maybe the more general updates are all that she is able give. I guess all that I can do is encourage her to write to him when she is ready.

3:19 PM  
Blogger Jayne said...

Thanks for the ideas, Kim, and thanks for the encouragement, Nicole. I really never thought about writing directly to him before this summer. I guess I was waiting for his adoptive mother to say it was okay.

8:04 PM  

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